Being an Ally When a Friend is Struggling
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4 Important Tips in Being an Ally When a Friend is Struggling
There will be times in life when the people that you care about don’t seem to be able to catch a break, and your friend is struggling. Rather than living their lives with zest and happiness, someone you love seems to be being dealt a continually rough hand by fate. Problems have a tendency to cluster together, and it’s not unusual for someone to find themselves dealing with a physical injury, an emotional problem, and financial issues all at the same time.
When you see this happening to someone in your life, your overwhelming response is likely to be one of concern— and helplessness. It’s natural to want to try and help, but when the problems keep coming thick and fast, it can feel like you’re unable to truly provide the love and support that you want to be able to.
If you do ever find yourself in the above situation, then it’s important to remember that you do have options. Here’s how you can help a friend who is dealing with multiple issues at once…
Offer practical help first and foremost
When someone is hurting or going through a rough time or a friend is struggling, your first instinct will be to respond to them emotionally. There is definitely a time and a place for this approach, but ultimately, it doesn’t really resolve any issues.
If you can, look for practical assistance you can offer before offering emotional support. If they have been injured by a vehicle, then you can help arrange medical appointments or read about GBW.law to see if they’re entitled to compensation.
Should the problem be a dispute with their spouse, you can help them look up counseling and therapy options.
Finally, financial issues are among the easiest to rectify; you could teach them to budget or, if their problems are above your level of knowledge, arrange for them to see a financial advisor.
Offer physical support
A text message or phone call might feel as if it’s enough, but realistically, it often isn’t. When going through a rough patch, people crave human interaction. If it’s feasible to do so it’s well worth paying a visit to your friend. This will give you a chance to truly discuss the problems, and for you to provide a literal helping hand if they require it.
Let them talk about them
In most cases, friendship is a two-way street, a dialog where you both share your news, views, and various happenings in your life. However, when your friend is struggling, it’s natural that their issues and how they are feeling will dominate the conversation… and you should let this happen.
Sometimes, your friend is just going to need to vent. It may be tough not to share your own news with them for a while. So it’s sensible for their bigger issues to dominate your discussions. As things improve for them, your conversations should eventually return to their normal, mutual rhythm.
Care for yourself
Finally, a small note on the importance of self-care when you are helping another person. It’s easy to neglect yourself in this scenario. So do be careful to take some time for yourself when you can. It’s easy to get burnt out dealing with the problems of others. So be cautious to preserve your own mental and physical health to avoid this issue.
How have you helped friends in the past when they were struggling? Let me know in the comments!
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